In this post: how to stop comparing yourself to others.
Today’s world is all about social media. Which is not a bad thing.
But it is very hard to not find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others.
And not only on social media. It is in human’s nature to always compare.
But sometimes it makes you emotional, ungrateful for your own life, and even leads to depression.
Comparison kills joy.
It kills the beautiful feeling of gratitude.
And in this post, I’m giving you some tips on how and what helps me to fight the comparison.
First, we’ll go through some mindset changes.
And then, what you should when another “comparison attack” hits.Pura Vida Jewelry Club
First things first. Start seeing your worth!
Understand that you DESERVE all the happiness and things you’re dreaming about!
See yourself as being worthy of having what you want.
Comparison often comes from the lack of self-worth.
Fill this lack.
Tell yourself every day (and actually believe it) that you’re worthy of living your dream life and having the joy others seem to have.
Here is 30 self-love and -worth affirmations to help you with this.
you have your own path
The next thing that is very important to realize is that everyone’s having their own path in life.
You have your own wonderful and unique destiny.
You walk your own beautiful way.
And you have your own great dreams and goals to accomplish and focus on.
No one can do that job better than you. Because YOU do that!
The next time you feel as someone paints, dances better than you, or is prettier, richer than you – remind yourself that you are you, you are different, you have your own path.
Yes, it is different from others’. But it doesn’t mean that you and your life are less wonderful.
change the energy
Change the negative energy of comparison into positive. How?
By being happy for someone you compare yourself to.
Start admiring and being proud of that person. But do not let it affect your self-worth in a bad way.
If you like someone’s qualities, things that you don’t have – just (please) don’t think that you don’t deserve it too.
Make them be your inspiration. But not the end of your self-love and -worth.
Do not let someone’s pretty face doubt your own beauty or destroy your self-image.
There’s no need for comparison between two enamoring wildflowers. They all have our hearts. Don’t they?
So why would you think you’re being less than someone just because you look/are different?
Do not trust every thought you have.
And it’s not only about looks but just anything you feel compared to.
You’re enough. Lemme repeat it – YOU’RE ENOUGH.
You’re worthy, you’re enough, and you have your own beautiful and unique path.
more compassion to yourself
I always criticized myself after an ugly thought of comparison came to mind.
That is why self-compassion is soooo important in the process of getting rid of any comparison.
Start treating yourself as you would a small child or tender flower.
Would you punish or be angry at them just because they’re not like someone else? Nooo! I mean, who would?
Give yourself the love and compassion you would give them.
You need it a lot!
Do not be harsh on yourself after another comparing thought.
Be slow and tender with yourself.
“Comparison attack” guide
What you should do when you lost control over it.
- take a few very deep breaths
Calm yourself down. Get in the present moment. Breath deeply.
- stop what you’re doing (thinking too)
While you breathe, take a moment to be still and get rid of all the thoughts.
- then analyze every thought you just had
What comparison did you make? How does it feel like? Why did you compare yourself again?
- write down (if you’re able to) or think more of it
Do I make myself feel less? What do I think I lack that makes me feel like that?
Have an honest and deep conversation with yourself. Do not be afraid. Dive deep.
Find the causes of your comparison.
- think of the things you’re proud of, grateful to have or be
Fill your mind with the deep gratitude for your life and yourself.
- get happy for this someone you’re comparing yourself to
Get proud of them. Create a new positive image about this situation and around your thoughts.
Change your negative thoughts.
In this post, I tell how to change a mindset into a positive one. It might help you
I’ve got some beautiful quotes for you to remember:
How do you deal with comparison? Is it hard for you to not compare yourself to others? Share with me in the comments, I’d love to hear from you
Have a beautiful day and life
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